Love & Relationships

7 Valentines Day Activities Your Man Wont Hate

Valentines Day is only 7 days away! If you’re anything like me, you probably still haven’t figured out what to do to celebrate the holiday. This Valentines Day season, I’m partnering with K Darcel to bring you 7 Wonderful Ideas to Make This Valentines Day Unforgettably Special. Whether you’re single or taken, we’ve got you covered. If you’re single, K Darcel has several suggestions to keep you feeling pampered and loved this Valentine’s Day. Visit her site at www.kdarcell.com for the scoop on Valentines Day ideas for singles. And if you’re in a relationship, but looking for something to do that both you and the man in your life can enjoy, keep reading.

7 Valentines Day Activities Your Man Won't Hate

I surveyed all the guys I knew and asked for their input on Valentines Day activities they actually enjoyed. Many had to take a moment to think about it as they’d never been asked this question before. Some felt Valentines Day was a waste of time and money, some were all for it and wanted to shower the women in their lives with affection, but nonetheless, they all provided insight on the top things they’d like to do for Valentines Day. Here are the 7 Valentines Day Activities Your Man Won’t Hate.

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The 5 types of toxic people you need to cut out your life TODAY

I’ve recently done some housekeeping in my personal life. I had been holding on to people who were really just bringing me down. I tend to do that sometimes. I’m sort of a hoarder of memories. I base relationships on the good times I had with the person, rather than the present relationship we have. Today, in honor of the upcoming Valentine’s Day holiday, I’ve decided to love myself enough to take out the trash.

The fact of the matter is that some people are toxic for your happiness. I don’t know about you, but some people who were in my life stole the joy right from it whenever we came in contact. I kept giving myself excuses as to why I needed to keep that person in my life, but the truth is, no one is entitled to your friendship. Friendship should be earned. The amount of time or trails and tribulations that a person’s been through with someone should not be the determining factor to the future of the relationship. The quality should. How does that person make you feel? It took me years to learn this and I’m sure it’s something I’ll be working on forever, but so far, I learned there were at least 5 types of people I needed to remove from my life immediately. They consisted of:

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Three Important Tips for the Moment You Get Engaged

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It has officially been a year since I got engaged. On Christmas Eve 2014, the love of my life asked me to spend the rest of my life with him. It was one of the best days of my life.  I remember being so happy. Christmas time is a season where many people get engaged. Having been there only 365 days ago, I’d like to offer you 3 tips for the moment you get engaged. (more…)

Real Love: the not so perfect, not so romantic, raw, down & dirty truth

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With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching, I want to talk about love – real love, not that infatuation garbage we post as love on social media. I want to talk about true love, the not so perfect, not so romantic, raw, down and dirty love.

I know the pretty soon I’ll see lots of posts from single people wanting to be in a relationship. I get it, it’s nothing wrong with wanting love. We were made to desire love, but ask yourself, are you truly looking for love? Or is what you’re after some unrealistic fantasy you’ve gotten off of social media and movies? (more…)

Friendship is Dating Without Benefits

Building a friendship is a lot like dating. If I had a penny for every time I’ve said this, I’d be pretty well off. I’ve learned the hard way that true friendships do not come easy. It’s a lot of hard work – and you don’t even get the intimacy, so some may say it’s not even worth it.

When I moved to Delaware, I never thought that it would be this difficult to make new friends. I had plenty of friends in New York, but Delaware is like a friendship desert. Where are all those ladies I saw myself having brunch with every Saturday like they did in Sex and the City? Isn’t that what adult friendships look like?

I love my boyfriend, but he’s not the only person I want to spend my time with and just doesn’t feed into the secret sharing I long to do with my girls over happy hour.

High school and college gives you false expectations of friendship building. Gone are the days of saying “hey, what class are you in?” equaling out to a new best bud. Making new friends as an adult is hard work! It truly is like dating.

Hear me out:
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The Rules…

Men are stupid. No, I refuse to believe that… Men pretend to be stupid. I find it hard to believe that men cannot grasp the concepts that seem so simple to myself and females alike. So I reiterate, men pretend to be stupid.

It amazes me how my boyfriend is able to turn his stupidity on and off when its convenient for him. When it comes to pointing out one of my shortcomings he’s Einstein, but the minute he wants to do something against my better judgment, he takes the lead role in Dumb and Dumber.

Here’s why I say this, and please let me know if I’m wrong in this situation.  Today, my boyfriend leaves the house (where we both live) without a peep of his whereabouts. Me, being the person that I am, assumes that he’d just be a minute, either to get something out of the car, check the mail, etc. But after 10-15 minutes when he still hadn’t returned, I realized his destination was much further. So I called him to see where he was… down the street with a friend. And upon his return, he brought that same friend back with him, again with no prior notice.

I feel like we’ve had this conversation a million times before, so this time, I knew my approach needed to change. While he and his friend played video games and drunk up all the Kool-Aid, I used my time to write out some rules and prologue to clearly express all that I wanted to say. It read: (more…)